The Inner Bonding Workbook
Six Steps to Healing Yourself and Connecting with Divine Guidance
What if the love, wisdom, and peace you've been seeking could be accessed at will, anytime you need it? Margaret Paul's Inner Bonding Workbook presents a revolutionary six-step process for healing self-abandonment, accessing Divine guidance, and finally giving your inner child the loving parent they always deserved.
After 17 years of traditional psychotherapy practice left Paul unsatisfied with results, she co-created Inner Bonding with Dr. Erika Chopich—a process that has transformed thousands of lives over 34 years. The core insight: true healing requires spiritual connection, and we can learn to access it at will.
The Frequency Secret
Divine connection isn't about belief—it's about frequency. Like tuning a radio to the right station, we must raise our energetic vibration high enough to connect with Spirit. Paul discovered two secrets that make this possible:
Our frequency is determined by what we eat and what we think. Factory-farmed meats, processed sugars, GMOs, and altered fats drag us down. So do the programmed false beliefs we absorbed growing up—beliefs about our worth, about what we can control, about what life is really about.
The Two Intentions
In any given moment, we operate from one of only two intentions:
Avoiding pain through addictions, self-judgment, making others responsible for our feelings. Lowers frequency, blocks Divine connection.
Opening to loving yourself and sharing love with others. Raises frequency, enables spiritual connection and emotional freedom.
The wounded self—formed from childhood programming—defaults to control. It believes if you were perfect, you could control how others feel about you. It judges, pressures, and abandons your inner child in countless ways.
The Six Steps of Inner Bonding
Be present in your body with your feelings. Make the decision: "I'm willing to be hurt." Paradoxically, this willingness creates freedom and personal power. Feelings are your inner guidance system telling you about your intent and whether you're loving or abandoning yourself.
Consciously choose learning over controlling. Put hands on heart, open space, invite Divine presence: "I invite you into my heart." This creates the loving adult—the part of you connected to Spirit's love and wisdom, capable of taking loving action.
Ask your inner child: "What am I telling you or doing that causes these feelings?" Then ask your wounded self: "What are you trying to control or avoid?" Uncover the false beliefs from childhood driving your self-abandonment. The wounded self can be any age—6, 10, 14—depending on when you absorbed the belief.
Ask: "What is the truth about these beliefs?" and "What is the loving action?" Let answers come through you, not from you. The truth feels right and expansive; lies create stress. Your guidance models how to love yourself—the role model most of us never had.
Without action, the first four steps mean nothing. Define your intrinsic worth (you're already perfect as a soul), then treat yourself as you would someone you deeply value. The loving actions cover six areas: emotional, physical, financial, relationship, organizational, and spiritual responsibility.
Check in: how do you feel? Loving actions bring relief, peace, fullness—even if they don't feel good immediately (like giving up sugar). If you're not feeling better, return to Step 4 for another loving action. Trust builds through testing your guidance over and over.
The Six Areas of Self-Responsibility
Your inner child feels safe and loved when you're a loving adult in all six major life areas:
Emotional: Stop ignoring feelings, judging yourself, turning to addictions, or making others responsible. Connect with your feelings moment by moment—they're your guidance system.
Physical: Eat organic, unprocessed foods. Move your body. Sleep enough. Keep your gut healthy (80% of your immune system is there). A toxic gut creates anxiety and depression via the gut-brain axis.
Financial: Neither hoard nor spend addictively. Work appropriately. Don't enable others or stay dependent when you could earn. Face your financial reality.
Relationship: Speak your truth without blame. Stop caretaking (doing for others what they should do for themselves) and taking (making them responsible for your feelings). In conflict: open to learning or lovingly disengage—never withdraw love as punishment.
Organizational: Show up on time. Pay bills when due. Keep spaces peaceful and clean. Chaos creates stress that lowers frequency.
Spiritual: Build daily rituals—prayer, meditation, walking in nature, Inner Bonding practice. Stay connected to Divine guidance throughout the day.
Breaking the Shame Cycle
Paul discovered shame has a purpose in the wounded self's system: if you believe others' unloving behavior is your fault (because you're not good enough), you can keep believing you can control them by changing yourself. It's a desperate attempt to avoid helplessness.
Shame heals when you: (1) Define your worth by intrinsic soul qualities, not externals like looks and performance, and (2) Fully accept your lack of control over others' feelings and behavior. Their reactions come from their intent, not your worth.
The Resistance Trap
Procrastination comes from an internal power struggle. The Controller (often adolescent) says "You'd better do this right or you'll be rejected." The Resister (often younger) says "You're not the boss of me." Control + resistance = paralysis.
The way out: shift from the intent to control to the intent to learn. Ask your Divine guidance, "What is in my highest good?" When loving yourself becomes more important than resisting being controlled, action flows naturally.
Why This Matters for the Planet
Individual healing creates collective transformation. When enough people take responsibility for their feelings and learn to love themselves, we reach the "Hundredth Monkey" moment—spontaneous global shift.
Imagine a world where everyone knew they were never alone, always guided, deeply loved by Spirit. Where kindness was natural because we valued our own essence and could see others' essence. Where money and power weren't substitutes for the love we can give ourselves.
Paul's process isn't just self-help—it's a pathway to at-will Divine connection that makes every moment an opportunity to operate as a loving adult. The six steps become a way of life, healing anxiety, depression, shame, and the aloneness that comes from self-abandonment.
After 34 years of evolution, Inner Bonding offers what traditional therapy couldn't: a systematic way to become your own loving parent, access spiritual wisdom moment by moment, and finally give your inner child what they've always needed—you, present, loving, and connected to the infinite source of love that's always been here, waiting for your invitation.